I learned to accept this behavior as part of my “fear of intimacy.” The pushing away then pulling closer behavior was a sure sign that I was simply scared of commitment and closeness with another human being.In fact, at one point in my life, I was engaged to be married to a guy that my family really liked.The idea that a man who is emotionally unavailable after three months will suddenly become emotionally available after six. I think I’m falling in love with you.” The men who left you walking on eggshells did the complete opposite.Or that the man who never talks about a future with you will suddenly see the light. A great night of passion is invariably followed by five days of silence. ” Is it not clear which men have long-term potential? kind, mentally healthy,and moderately good-looking, can be real challenge. So many nicely wrapped packages end up holding a lump of coal. I thought I’d share several types to watch out for in the dating lottery game.
Remember, to be in a healthy relationship you and your partner need to like the WHOLE PERSON. But, you see, what I craved and wanted was the relationship, not the guy.
Finally, after the tension is so high it’s twanging (and so are you), you make the big move. He pulls back and says, “I’d like things to remain platonic.” You’re stunned.
Usually you’re fighting them off, not being told to cool your jets.
Unless you like comforting hurt little boys ad nauseam.
I know just how to soothe his troubled brow and make him forget all about HER. If he talks about his ex on the first date, and the second date, and the third date—guess what? And until he is, he can’t be the boyfriend you want.
I’m looking for a boyfriend who is open to a long-term relationship with me. And if, by some miniscule chance, you cut off the guy who really wanted to be your boyfriend (even though he gave NO indication of it beforehand), guess what?